A Partner's Guide to Trusting Herself with Healthy Sexuality

Sexual wounding due to sexual betrayal is one of the deepest cuts for the betrayed partner. It can shatter a partner’s sense of trust—not just in their relationship, but in themselves. This gentle discussion aims to empower betrayed partners to reclaim (or possibly start to build for the first time) their sexual confidence, and healthy sexuality after betrayal. 

This conversation will focus on how a partner can regain trust in herself around sexual things. We will explore the difference between a porn-related mindset and healthy holistic sexual intimacy. Listeners will consider how to separate their partner’s choices from their own worth, release internalized blame, and redefine their sexual identity according to their own values and goals. 

On the practical side, we will address the intentional steps toward vulnerability and sexual reintegration (how to tap into peace around sexual intimacy, be confident in vulnerability, baby steps toward a relaxed fulfilling sexual encounter, and encouraging the reality that emotionally connected sexual intimacy exists).

A betrayed partner can heal from the past, fully trust herself and her choices around sexual experience and, also, have the agency to co-create an emotionally intimate physical expression of restoration, trust, vulnerability, and tenderness. 

By the end of the discussion, Bonny hopes to help a betrayed partner know there is no mystery in how this transformation takes place.