About this Talk
"When Betrayed Men Choose to Stay" hosted by Scott Peacock with guests Jesse Pyles and Michael Hoye, explores the topic of men’s betrayal experiences from empirical psychological science and sexual medicine perspectives. They discuss the importance of empirical, or quantitative, approaches as opposed to anecdotal, or qualitative, perceptions.
Jesse and Michael outline how most clinical approaches and cultural biases assign men responsibility for their wife’s infidelity, rooted in what is known as the deficit model. They explain that the deficit model was conceptualized a validation of unfaithful spouses’ justifications for their infidelity. They point out that empirical science refutes the deficit model’s underlying precepts.
Men who speak of enduring bonds and prioritizing family stability grapple with the permanent loss of mate value. Jesse and Michael emphatically state that effective support requires fundamental understanding of sexual psychology and reproductive cost differences regarding men’s betrayal experiences as compared to women’s betrayal experiences. These differences, and many other issues, are discussed further in Pyles’ book Shadow in Fog.